What are some other books that discuss the psychology of relationships?

The Socratic method of questioning involves asking open-ended questions to stimulate critical thinking and to expose the underlying assumptions of your conversation partner.

For example, if you want to convince a colleague to adopt a new project management tool, you could start by asking about their current challenges. You might ask, What are some difficulties you face with our current project management system? This could lead them to identify the problems that the new tool can solve.

Next, you could ask, How do you think these problems could be solved? This allows them to think about possible solutions, which you can then link to the features of the new tool.

Finally, you could ask, What if there was a tool that could address these issues? Would you consider using it? This question makes them think that adopting the new tool was their idea, as it directly addresses their identified problems.

Remember, the key is to guide the conversation with your questions, not to impose your ideas.

One way is to find common ground between your needs and their desires. Another is to show how fulfilling your needs can also benefit them in achieving their desires. You can also appeal to their values or emotions, showing how your needs align with what they care about. Lastly, you can use incentives or rewards that are desirable to them, to motivate them to fulfill your needs.